GPS: Saving My Relationship One Roadtrip at a Time

GPS Saving My Relationship One Roadtrip at a Time

Statistics have shown that most couples fight the most over money. Luckily, J and I are on the same page when it comes to our finances but the one thing we always fight about is DRIVING DIRECTIONS!!!

Long time GMD readers would know that J and I take a lot of mini/weekend road-trips because we don’t plan on traveling or taking any “real” vacations anytime soon because of my debt repayment and previously┬ásaving up to buy a condo and now planning a wedding. These mini getaways are always super fun and help keep me sane while I try to ignore my traveling itch to see the world before I have 2 sons 2 years apart, a chocolate brown lab name Kes, and a charming house with a hot pink picket fence. The only thing that makes our weekend road-trips not so fun is our constant bickering and fighting with driving directions.

Here’s the problem broken down simple.

J doesn’t like to print out maps or look at FULL directions ANYWHERE we go because he thinks he has the WORLD mapped in his head.

I have never owned a car and often years go by without me even sitting in the driver’s seat so it’s not so absurd to believe that I don’t know driving signs/streets that well and reading maps is a skill I have yet to master.

When J gets lost in a new town or city (which is a lot more often than he thinks) J expects me to go on my I-phone to figure out where we are and how to get “un-lost”.

I can usually figure out where we are on the map, but how to get “un-lost” is beyond my knowledge so I’m always telling J that he needs to look at the map himself.

J always says “I can’t look at the map right now. I’m driving!’

I then say “Well pull-over and look at the map then because I don’t know how to get there!”

J says “Why can’t you figure it out?”

I say ‘Why can’t you pullover or better yet, stop at a gas station and ask for directions?”

Because, apparently J is a man and a man can NEVER ask for driving directions.

This same fight happens ALL the time.

Last month, after my birthday weekend in “579 one way streets Portland” and Seattle, I decided that I had had ENOUGH!

I know that J is too frugal to ever buy a GPS for himself but luckily GMD ain’t that frugal because I promptly purchased a GPS for him after that trip.

We haven’t really had a chance to use the GPS until this weekend when we decided to drive 45 minutes out-of-town from where we live to go hiking (3 cheers for frugal fun!!!) and J and I instantly noticed how relaxed we felt driving there! So relaxed that I was even enjoying the scenery around me. J then made a cheeky comment about the GPS saving our relationship one road-trip at a time. I couldn’t agree more babe. ;)

Of course it only took a woman to solve the persistent problem but that’s another blog post topic… :P

So are J and I the only couple out there who fights over driving directions?

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48 Comments on GPS: Saving My Relationship One Roadtrip at a Time

  1. Holly@ClubThriftyNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 5:50 am (8 months ago)

    Greg follows directions pretty well but he takes FOREVER to get places. He would rather drive ten minutes out of our way then make a quick U-turn to get somewhere. He makes everything take twice as long! Love him, though =)

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 9:42 am (8 months ago)

      Twice as long is a little bit better than getting lost all the time! ;)

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  2. Jamie VNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 6:27 am (8 months ago)

    Hah! We get into arguments driving, too. I remember one time we were driving someplace new and I had a physical map in my hand. You know, one of those large, paper, folded a million ways maps.. Well, we were arguing, and I mean really arguing (I believe I was proving him completely and totally wrong, when in the end, he turned out to be right), in the middle of who-knows-where and for just one second I threw both hands up in the air (maybe with some rude gesture in there)..and whoosh! The map got sucked right out of my window. It was gone. I was completely pissed off, and newly (very) embarrassed. He pulled over, because I had started to cry really hard, until I laughed really hard, and then it was just a mess on my face and he was confused. The argument was over; We hugged and apologized, turned around, and drove back to get the map which fortunately hadn’t been blown too far and dirtied. We managed to make it to our destination. It makes me crack up just to think about that one because it had gotten so out of hand. Whenever the stress is the car gets bad these days, we think about that time and realize, it really isn’t that bad after all..and manage to make it home!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 9:59 am (8 months ago)

      Thank you for sharing this story Jamie! Sometimes I laugh when I think back to some of the more heated fights that J and I have had while driving and getting lost but luckily that is a thing of the past with this new GPS! :)

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  3. debtfreeonedayNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 6:38 am (8 months ago)

    Lol! I used to get so stressed before we got our GPS. The hubby is good with directions but tends to go on autopilot and we often end up in the back of beyond. I never remember directions unless I’m driving myself. A GPS is a good buy I think! By the way, I would also love a hot pink picket fence one day!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:05 am (8 months ago)

      For us, a GPS was an investment in the future of our relationship :P Wouldn’t a hot pink picket fence just be fab? :)

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  4. Joshua from CNAFinance.comNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 6:51 am (8 months ago)

    No, you and J aren’t alone. Anna and I get into the directions match every once in a while. I’ve learned that I should listen to her! Last time I didn’t, I took us about an hour out of the way on a drive that was only supposed to be about an hour and a half….ooops!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:42 am (8 months ago)

      Ooops! At least you’ve learned to listen to her ;)

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  5. Michelle's Finance JournalNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 7:00 am (8 months ago)

    We don’t fight about driving directions much since we just use our iphone map and if we get lost or it gives wrong direction, I’m ok at looking at a map to figure things out to tell him where to go while he drives. But we do still disagree on finances sometimes, so that’s something we have to figure out.

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:47 am (8 months ago)

      I think if I knew how to read a map there would have been less fighting but as the driver he should have know his driving directions LOL.

      As for the finances, as long as you keep communication open then eventually it all works out. Good luck!

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  6. Jordann @ My Alternate LifeNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 7:04 am (8 months ago)

    One of the things I love baout my husband and I is that we are great travelers. He drives, I navigate, easy peasy. It wasn’t always like that though, and we’ve gotten into a few tiffs about the proper way to go.

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:53 am (8 months ago)

      It’s easy peasy for us now too with the GPS! :D

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  7. Budget and the BeachNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 7:39 am (8 months ago)

    OMG I have to admit I side with J on this one. It drives me crazy when I offer to drive somewhere and the person in the passenger side can’t navigate. Even when I’ve actually got the directions on my iPhone and all they have to do is read it back to me. My next car will have a built in gps for sure so I don’t have to rely on my iPhone. It’s stressful. Glad you found a solution. :)

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:55 am (8 months ago)

      Hi my name is GMD and I can’t navigate or read a map. Hope we can still be friends? ;)

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  8. Kyle @ Debt Free DiariesNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 7:44 am (8 months ago)

    I used to have a GPS and loved it! Unfortunately it has been sent to GPS Heaven recently and will be missed. Now we print off directions from Google Maps and it works for most trips, until we make a wrong turn :P

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:56 am (8 months ago)

      Everything is always peachy until the dreaded one wrong turn! :P

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  9. MandaNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 7:44 am (8 months ago)

    Haha, I am HORRIBLE with directions but my boyfriend is really good with them. However, when we were LDR for a year I had to get a little better at directions! When he first got back, we would argue over whether or not I knew where I was going, because he was in shock that I managed to absorb SOME information about directions in the year he was gone :P Not a lot, mind you… but enough to make him suspicious of whether or not I was bluffing!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:58 am (8 months ago)

      I like to think of myself as a SMART GIRL but those driving directions are complicated when you’ve never owned a car and only drive once every two years or so like myself!

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  10. BrianNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 7:56 am (8 months ago)

    I love my GPS. I originally purchased it for my motorcycle (ZUMO for the win!) since it is much hard, but not impossible) to look at a map while riding a bike. Plus it doubled as an mp3 player and bluetooth telephone receiver. That thing has been to 5 different countries and most of the state since them. Probably some of the best money I have ever spent.

    I also still go get maps from AAA because it is nice to have a physical map too!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 10:59 am (8 months ago)

      GPS for the win!

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  11. MichelleNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 8:07 am (8 months ago)

    Haha W thinks that he knows everything also. Must be a guy thing!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 11:00 am (8 months ago)

      It must be a guy thing. Too bad their wrong so often! ;)

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  12. Tara @ Streets Ahead LivingNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 8:11 am (8 months ago)

    Love this! My husband and I do fight in the car even with the GPS but only when there is dead-stop traffic (like an accident that blocked a road). The only reason we argue is because I get panic attacks when we’re in the car and it’s not moving because I have bad experiences with overheating cars in stopped traffic. I also am claustrophobic so I think that’s part of the paranoia as well. So I always want to take the first exit possible to bypass the traffic and he does not. If he’s driving, his stubborn-ness will not allow him to get off at the nearby exit which causes the frustration. So I have tried to get over my panics and keep checking the car thermostat and get over it. The traffic will always eventually pick back up! My mom tells me I have to face my fears so I’m slowly learning to deal with the completely-stopped traffic…

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 11:05 am (8 months ago)

      Sorry to hear about your panic attacks with completely-stopped traffic. We recently had to replace J’s mustang engine for a pretty price tag of $3,000 because of overheating issues. Not fun at all!

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  13. annaNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 8:14 am (8 months ago)

    LOL B and I have had that spat occasionally, mostly when he gets us lost and “commands” me to get us un-lost like you said. Sometimes the GPS on my phone doesn’t work (like the starting point won’t be where we start – thanks a lot, GPS!), but B has a good sense of direction so he can usually get us out of the predicament. He also has a GPS that doesn’t talk, and then gets frustrated at me when I daze off and forget to tell him where to go – oops! Thankfully, he gets even-keeled pretty quickly. ;)

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 11:08 am (8 months ago)

      J usually eventuallys gets us “un-lost” but it’s not as quickly as I would like. I just like being a passive passenger who daydreams and sleeps in the car!

      A GSP that doesn’t talk? Thank goodness B is so even-keeled haha.

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  14. Grayson @ Debt RoundupNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 8:51 am (8 months ago)

    My wife and I are usually pretty good. I have a good sense of directions, but I also plan out my trip beforehand. I know where to go, where to turn and landmarks. That is the downfall of a planner. I also don’t mind admitting when I am lost.

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 11:10 am (8 months ago)

      If only J was a planner like you! He likes to call himself a “free-spirit.” I like to call it careless haha.

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  15. Shannon @ The Heavy PurseNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 10:20 am (8 months ago)

    GPS clearly saves a lot of relationships! Chris and I are both pretty good navigators but GPS is a lifesaver when we do get lost. I believe there is something in male DNA that prevents them from asking directions or pulling over and looking at the map themselves. :)

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 11:11 am (8 months ago)

      For sure, one of the unsolved mysteries in life is males and their refusal to ask for driving directions and pulling over to look at the map themeselves!

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  16. Kasey @ Debt PerceptionNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 12:36 pm (8 months ago)

    I took a road trip to visit my friend this past week but couldn’t use the navigation on my phone because our car charger port isn’t working. I wrote out directions and was doing fine until it started getting dark and I couldn’t see them. Had to pull over and use my phone. Prior to 2010, I was very reliant on maps and printed/written directions (did a lot of mini road trips) and I don’t know how I ever survived without a GPS or navigation on my phone!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 1:10 pm (8 months ago)

      I’ve never really been a driver before so I don’t know what life was like before GPS hehe.

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  17. Eva @ Girl Counting PenniesNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 1:28 pm (8 months ago)

    I don’t like to be driven. It’s either too fast, or too slow, or “watch out”, or “do you even know where you’re going”” or “let me drive”… Really, it’s just easier when I drive! I think now I understand why I have two EX-fiances, haha!

    I’m glad you’ve found a solution and it’s working for you guys!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 2:19 pm (8 months ago)

      Maybe it would be easier if couples just drove seperate cars haha. Or if every couple had a GPS ;)

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  18. Lisa E. @ Lisa Vs. The LoansNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 2:31 pm (8 months ago)

    My BF always asks for me to get directions and it’s such a mistake on his part because I have a TERRIBLE sense of direction! And what’s worse is that my stupid GPS on my phone is always crapping out on me. So here I am, sitting shotgun, upset at my phone and at the BF, and he’s expecting me to tell him where to go?? UGhh haha.

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 2:40 pm (8 months ago)

      Been there. Done that. It’s not pretty haha. I suggest getting your BF a GPS too Lisa :P

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 5:40 pm (8 months ago)

      If only the driver’s wouldn’t get lost then there would be no fighting over driving directions haha.

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  19. KK @ Student Debt SurvivorNo Gravatar
    September 9, 2013 at 6:33 pm (8 months ago)

    For the life of me I cannot read a map (not at all). I’m not sure why. I’m not an unintelligent person, but directions and I just don’t go together. I’m all about the GPS, it’s really a lifesaver for me (especially when I’m driving long distances and have no idea where I am).

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 9, 2013 at 6:55 pm (8 months ago)

      Same! I like to think of myself as a SMART GIRL but directions/maps make my head spin!

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  20. eemusingsNo Gravatar
    September 10, 2013 at 2:21 am (8 months ago)

    We both heart GPS. Makes things sooo breezy. I think T’s love for gadgets outweighs any emasculating effect. High tech FTW!

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 10, 2013 at 6:23 am (8 months ago)

      I second the high tech for the win! :)

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  21. SarahnNo Gravatar
    September 10, 2013 at 2:59 pm (8 months ago)

    Cough cough – I use the GPS on the phone… or the BF does (actually his phone is better at it, and can sych to his stereo and stuff). When we do get lost it’s playfully called ‘adventuring’ and we’re good with it. I sometimes hit dead end streets and the like… but usually if I was alone I’d just turn around and continue, and he makes a deal out of it. I drive A LOT for work, so I know my way around heaps even though I’m not a local (well it’s now been 11 years here, and I didn’t drive here for the first 5 or so). I just ask the non local (he’s been here a year) ‘do you want help getting there’ and last night he said no… and it all worked a treat :)

    In an aside, I HATE GPS and with work, I use the UBD (our term in Sydney for the map book, called a refidex in my home state?!). I like knowing ‘up’ is always north etc. Anyhow, we ALSO have maps for the work we do, and sometimes I try to use a snippet on the design and work out the rest from memory/logic… sometimes it ends with a ‘what the’ call to the office to get some more info…

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 10, 2013 at 4:13 pm (7 months ago)

      It wasn’t playfully called ‘adventuring’ with us LOL. I guess I just think getting lost is a big waste of time and I have better things to do like get to my destination!!! ;)

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  22. Laurie @thefrugalfarmerNo Gravatar
    September 11, 2013 at 4:34 am (7 months ago)

    LOL, GMD, Rick and I rarely fight about directions anymore. Why? Because I’ve accepted the fact that most all guys are this way and it’ll likely always be this way. :-)

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 11, 2013 at 9:45 pm (7 months ago)

      I. just. can’t. accept. that. fact. YET. Laurie! Thank goodness for the GPS! ;)

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  23. E.M.No Gravatar
    September 11, 2013 at 8:01 pm (7 months ago)

    My boyfriend and I do fight over directions sometimes, but it’s mostly because I start getting anxiety from being lost. Thankfully we have a GPS and I use the “Scout” app on my iPhone for a speaking-GPS as well. This one actually works decently well! Since my boyfriend still has a dumb phone he will hand write directions from google maps. Takes way too long for me and you never know when you might take a wrong turn.

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    • Girl Meets DebtNo Gravatar
      September 11, 2013 at 9:47 pm (7 months ago)

      I get anxious and annoyed about getting lost as well. J just tells me to be more of a “free-spirit” which only heats up the already heated discussion haha.

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